Dinner dates

Before you book

Dinner dates run three to four hours, usually in the evening. You'll contact the escort directly through her profile, propose a date and restaurant, and arrange payment according to her rates, that's between you and her. Most will ask for a deposit to confirm; the remainder becomes due when you meet. Some prefer bank transfer in advance; others take cash at the restaurant. She'll want your phone number, and you should ask for hers.

Give her at least a week's notice if possible. She works a full schedule, and elite escorts in Amsterdam book far ahead. If you're planning something for Saturday at Café de Reiger in the Jordaan, don't contact her on Thursday morning. Most maintain a cancellation policy; read hers when you book.

The restaurant matters more than you might think. Choose somewhere you actually want to eat. Adda, who's 26 and based in Amsterdam, keeps her booking window short because she's selective about where she'll spend an evening; if you propose somewhere mediocre, she'll decline. Pick a place where you've eaten before, or where a friend has vouched for the food and service. A quiet table matters, somewhere you can talk without raising your voice over kitchen noise or a DJ.

What to expect when you meet

She'll arrive on time or text you if she's running late. Greet her as you would any date. Order drinks. You'll have dinner. The evening is hers to give you; it isn't a performance. Alee, who's 29 with blue eyes and works across dinner dates in Amsterdam, isn't there to flatter you constantly or pretend to find you funnier than you are. She's there because you've paid her to spend the time with you. That's enough. Most escorts are good company because they've chosen this work and tend to be sharp conversationalists. Treat her as you'd treat anyone whose time you've bought.

Don't touch her without asking. That goes for your hand on her arm, a kiss on the cheek, anything. Amsterdam is liberal, but it's still the Netherlands, discretion means respecting her boundaries before she has to state them. Some escorts will hold your hand across the table. Others won't. She'll signal what she's comfortable with. Read it.

Pay the restaurant bill when it arrives. Don't make her do it, and don't fumble over it. Alessia, 24 and slim with dark eyes, books dinner dates across Amsterdam and expects a man to handle money without performance. It's straightforward.

After dinner

When the booking ends, it ends. If she wants to extend, she'll say so. If she doesn't, you shake hands or kiss her cheek goodbye, whichever she's indicated suits her, and you part. Don't ask if you can see her again that night. The booking was for dinner, nothing more.

Discretion means several things. It means not telling people you know where you met her or under what arrangement. It means not mentioning her name to other clients or rivals. It means not following her on Instagram or trying to add her as a friend. It means deleting her phone number when the evening's done, or at least not texting her weeks later to say you miss her. Cleopatra, at 42 one of the most experienced escorts on the Amsterdam roster, has made clear in her profile that she values clients who understand that professional boundaries are there for both of them.

Some escorts will accept dinner dates as a way in, they're looking for a chance to see if regular clients become steady bookings. Others do it because they enjoy dining out and aren't working at that moment, so they take the money. Alexandra, who's 41 and works across multiple booking types, approaches each dinner date as exactly that: an evening, nothing promised beyond it. Don't project anything further.

The escorts who work dinner dates in Amsterdam vary in what they'll book alongside. Anda, 27 and blonde, takes dinner dates and evenings out. Amanda, 23 with rare green eyes, keeps a focused list. Anely, 23, books dinner dates and overnight stays. Angel, also 25 and dark-haired, works a similar range. Angella speaks three languages and works across a broader list from Amsterdam including dinner dates. Annabel keeps deliberately short bookings. Ariel, 22, takes dinner dates. Bella's list is one of the broadest: dinner dates, evenings, overnights. Bianca, 24 and blonde, books dinner dates, nights out and overnight stays. Brianna, 26, books dinner dates. Catalina, at 29 one of three escorts at DD cup on the Amsterdam roster, takes dinner dates. Celine, 25 and 175cm, suits evenings out particularly. Clarissa works shorter bookings rather than extended time. Cleo, 27, works across dinner dates and longer bookings. Dalya's black hair with blue eyes is uncommon enough to be worth noting. Denisa, 23 with green eyes and striking height, works dinner dates. Denise, 25, takes dinner dates and evenings out. Ines, 24, works dinner dates from Amsterdam. Ingrid, 26 and black-haired, books dinner dates. Check each profile for what she actually offers.